I need assistance in writing a story - my story a bit. I can do it, I can do it with detail but I'd like someone who can take it and put it more as a summary, a bit more concise than me. I want to encourage action with this story so it should motivate, inspire and tell a story.
To be very brief, I am American but live in Britain. My father was in the States and last year he passed away. It was a terrible loss, and it was a loss of his physical being. This year, I get a last Will and Testament from his significant other's lawyer. And basically the entire estate went to her. My sister never got named, I only got named in case she pre-deceased me - unlikely as she was 13 years my father's junior - and I've had health problems like cancer in the last few years. But the egregious parts are that my sister and I had no estrangement with our father, we spoke to him regularly - never knew of this. Second, we had no - known - issue with the significant other. I asked her at his passing for some of his ashes, I got no further response - no ashes. There's a story to tell about all of this which I guess hindsight is 20/20. Third, he signed this Will on 10/08/08 - which is 10 years before his passing. So much of that hindsight story happened post this Will signing, but I suspect his partner is using the last 10 years of some accumulated resentment to interpret the Will most financially beneficial to herself, and not fairly to my father and maybe what his wishes were - though the Will didn't detail it out. But even more importantly, he had had a major stroke in April 2008 - so 6 months before the signing of the Will. He had brain surgery at that time as well. He was on pain medication, and much else. The fact is, is that he never really recovered. He became 'better' but he never got use of his left side again, he was in and out of doctors, hospitals and surgeries for the next 10 years and generally always on a form of medication for pain and many ailments.
So the point of this is, is that he is signing this at a time of quite possibly mental incapacity, he is also in a time of duress. He is afraid for the first time in life as he was always so strong - to tell you the stories of my father, he overcame much - but this is the first time he is struck hard and not really able to do anything.
My belief is, is that psychologically, he is afraid of her abandoning him. I could explain more on this, with the selected person to write. So he names her, and maybe, naively thinks she'll do the right thing, or that she tells him this. I don't know - as we weren't consulted, and never told. We never asked our father about his Will, for obvious reasons of just not really liking discussing the mortality of our parent. If anyone could tell you about me, I idolised my father in so many ways. It doesn't mean we never had arguments or disagreements, but I am pretty sure anyone who has ever known me - knew how I felt about my father. He was a huge part of my life. Considering his passing, would be extremely painful. But I also honoured his privacy and believed he would do right. Though again maybe hindsight and a bit of realism should have guided me better.
So when he signed this Will, there was no legal counsel that I can see of - this wasn't done by a lawyer, or a law office. It appears to be a rather 'form' Will. And the only two people to Witness it, was his partner's sister and brother-in-law who were to be the only witnesses to his Will being signed with just a notary to say they witnessed the signature.
This is well known across all other legal advice to disinherit with caution, it will be your last words to your children. We lost our physical father a year ago, this year - we lost the idea of our father. We now question so much. The partner never answers. I'd like to encourage law makers to put in a requirement that if children are disinherited, it must be with legal counsel. This is the only way they can best advise when you are doing this.